How long have you been selling used panties?
I have been selling worn items and digital content since August 2021
How did you find out about it?
In February of 2021 in a Facebook group I’m in, one gal asked a question about who has an OnlyFans and how can she bring in money for her family without having to be naked on there. I was curious and browsed the comments. One gal replied about Panty Deal and how instead of OF, she can sell her panties. That initially sparked my interest about it.
Where do you sell?
I sell on subscription sites, primarily Pantydeal, censored and in KIK groups. I’ve also looked into Scented Pansy, SofiaGray, and Naughty Connections as options to expand to. I’m not too keen into clips sites, since although I offer custom videos, I have this fear of being downloaded to a porn site and on the internet forever.
How many hours per day do you spend selling?
I work full time at an office job and have a family so during the week is only about 2 – 3 hours weaved in though pockets of time. Weekends I can dedicate more time with pictures for adverts and filming content.
Why did you decide to sell panties online?
I decided to take the plunge into selling in August on Pantydeal, because it was a means to support my family. I have two toddlers and day-care is very expensive, so initially it was to supplement those costs.
Do you sell additional items or just panties?
I sell socks, stockings, lingerie, gym and any other physical item requests that I can accommodate. I do digital content, sexting, live video camming if I’m available too.
What do you enjoy about panty selling?
I love being able to bring a smile to a strangers face and fill a need for them, whatever that may be. I have grown to love being someone’s first Ebony Girl experience as well. Previously, I never really thought about my race being a fetish, but there totally is and I love being able to fulfil that fantasy for someone!
What is challenging or difficult about panty selling?
Honestly, I didn’t know how hard it would be starting! I joined Pantydeal in August and initially had sweet welcome messages, but no one bought a thing from me. I reached out to a fellow seller on Pantydeal that recommended listening to the “Panty Selling Podcast” for tips, and I dove in like it was my Bible. I changed my profile description, created better adverts, added pictures and was hopeful that I would make a sale.
But then… nothing happened. I re-posted ads, took more pictures, sent messages and only got scammers replying. So in October I sent Dalma a message on Instagram to please help, because I was frustrated, unmotivated and beginning to think it was because of my race. I didn’t see a lot of other African-American sellers, so I thought asking the Panty Queen would be a long shot, but my best bet at help. She referenced me to an affluent African-American seller that I should reach out to for her trainings and tips. Dalma also took a look at my profile and with a few tweaks on how I took my pictures and sell my products and build my catalogue for buyers. Within 1 month I had sales coming in and I was elated to have some money for my toddlers holiday!
The downside to sites is that one demographic is showcased a lot, and Black, Indigenous, People of Color (BIPOC) and LGBTQIA+ people may not be seen though auto-posts or the site itself weeding these sellers to the sides. I haven’t yet explored moving off platforms and owning my own site, but I am seeking starting an exclusive Black or BIPOC KIK seller/buyer group soon for my community.
What’s your advice to someone just starting out?
TREAT IT LIKE A BUSINESS!
I have always had an entrepreneurial spirit so sticking to it through the highs and lows and the knack for showing up day in and day out is in my nature. I mean, I didn’t make a sale for 3 months and still showed up daily on the sites! And know your ethics too, like what crosses the line for you. I am a no-face seller, that’s my hard stance and no amount that a buyer offers to pay me will I remove my lace eye mask for pictures and videos.
But also like a brick and mortar store, you have to stay organized too. Like your profits & losses, how are you packaging your items, do you need bubble wrap, packaging tape, stationary for thank you cards, how are you filing your receipts for taxes, inventory restock, are you keeping track of what content your emailing out to buyers, all of the administrative tasks like that as well. That’s why I invested in the Pantypreneur Planner – it’s “my brain” it keeps me focused and tracking what I have to do for the day.
What, in your opinion, does it take to be a successful seller?
Don’t wear yourself out, everything starts with the mindset. Recently sites have been changing terms and really negatively impacting sellers business. STAY POSITIVE! Affirmations, writing in a journal your goals, even having a goal poster are all things I have done to stay successful. Have I ever been in the Top Lists on the sites? No. Do I have 1,000 reviews from buyers. No (mostly because men are horrible at follow through) but I DONT let that get to my head, that is not my worth. Dalma talks about the “dark days” in the podcast and when I had those I definitely took a day or two off and re-cantered my mindset.
And expand your knowledge of the sex work community. I loved being an attendee of the recent SW Summit (on Twitter SW Survival Guide) in May and learning about the whole community and hearing from other content creators who are experiencing a lot of what we are feeling in the panty community as well. I was an exotic dancer in my early 20’s back in 2008 when the US had a major recession, and I think we’re feeling that again post-Covid, so hearing others experiences during the summit was really reassuring.
How much (on average) do you/have you made per week/month?
Average week can be between $60 – 100 US / $400 a month which is a great supplement for my family.
Do your friends/family know about what you do?
Only my husband and best friend do. I stay as discreet as I can, but they are very supportive. My husband has watched the kids while I filmed or did a Skype and has dropped of orders to the post office for me. Having a support network, even the Sellers before Fellas group, is wonderful to decompress.
How long do you think you will do this for?
As long as it brings me joy. When it sincerely stops bringing me joy that’s when I know it’ll be time to retire. But then again there will always be a MILF and Granny fetish so….