“I’ve always been intrigued by your sexy panty posts, but you strike me more as a very business only oriented woman for some reason. Nothing wrong with that at all just not typically the sellers I gravitate too. BUT I can be completely wrong! Lol”
I received this message this morning from a potential buyer and it took me back a bit. In fact, I was a bit affronted and I wasn’t sure why so I took the time to digest it.
Here’s what I think about this message – no offence at all to the buyer, by the way, I just wanted to unpack how I felt about the message.
First and foremost, there’s the fact I run the Panty Selling School and I’ve been more than public about it. In hindsight, this may have been unwise from a sales perspective.
I’ve noticed I’ve been blocked by quite a few guys and I don’t let it bother me, I block plenty of guys I don’t want to work with. But it crosses my mind whether one of the reasons is because I publicly post about THIS work. Helping other sellers – especially not to sell too cheap – that’s got to be annoying to some buyers, i guess.
Publicly talking about sales and making sales might make me look a certain way, like I’m only interested in money or something.
But I can’t reverse time and I’m fucking proud of THIS site and this work and my podcast so even if it is losing me sales then I guess I’m ok with that, because creating community and helping other sellers IS WHAT I NEED TO DO to feel as if I’m truly being me.
So there’s that.
And then I think I got upset because I felt singled out as if I’m the only seller that is running a business.
NEWSFLASH: even if we aren’t all business-like in our demeanour and our approach to our work, we are all…fucking…running…a…business…here.
Number one reason why 99.9% of women are selling their underwear is to make money.
They want to do it quick, easy and online. That’s what panty selling can give you.
They want maximum return for investment. The want margin and they want mark up.
We are in business.
But, and I’ve spoken about this before, we almost need to come across as if we aren’t.
As if we don’t care about the money, when we do.
As if we are just here doing this because we’re hot and horny and want to get me off, when sometimes that’s completely untrue.
So there’s that.
And I think the last reason I was pretty annoyed about this message, was because I really do enjoy doing this work. If I didn’t, I sure as fuck wouldn’t be here.
I don’t actually NEED the money anymore.
I like it. I love making sales, don’t get me wrong.
But I’m here because I want to be, not because I have to be.
And I felt that this buyer obviously didn’t realise that.
And that’s not his fault, it’s mine. Maybe I’m not getting that message across as much as I did in the beginning when my adverts rhymed or made fun, or I wrote raps about free shipping.
And so, with that message in the back of my mind I’m revisiting my message and my brand. But I’m also unapolo-fucking-getic about the fact that I am in business, I run a business in a business-like way and that is no bad thing.
BUSINESS IS GOOD AND I MEAN BUSINESS!!